Job 19:14

My kinsfolk have failed, and my familiar friends have forgotten me.

My kinsfolk {H7138} have failed {H2308}, and my familiar friends {H3045} have forgotten {H7911} me.

my kinsfolk have failed me, and my close friends have forgotten me.

My kinsmen have failed me, and my friends have forgotten me.

My kinsfolk have failed, And my familiar friends have forgotten me.

Commentary

Context

Job 19:14 is a poignant cry from Job, found within a larger discourse where he expresses the depths of his suffering and isolation. In this chapter, Job laments that even God seems to have forsaken him (Job 19:6), and then turns to the human element of his distress. He feels utterly abandoned by everyone who once knew him, including his closest relatives and friends, his servants, and even his wife and children (Job 19:13-19). This verse specifically highlights the betrayal and neglect from those he expected to provide comfort and support during his immense trials, following the loss of his family, wealth, and health.

Key Themes

  • Profound Abandonment and Betrayal: The verse vividly portrays Job's complete desertion by those closest to him. His kinsfolk and familiar friends, who should have been pillars of support, instead add to his pain through their absence and forgetfulness.
  • The Nature of Human Relationships Under Duress: It underscores how easily human loyalty and affection can falter in the face of extreme adversity, revealing the fragility of even strong bonds when tested by suffering.
  • Deep Loneliness: Job's lament is a testament to the crushing weight of loneliness that accompanies physical and emotional pain when all human solace is withdrawn.

Linguistic Insights

The KJV translation captures the essence of Job's despair:

  • "My kinsfolk" (Hebrew: qrovay - קְרוֹבָי): This term refers to Job's close relatives, his flesh and blood. The word implies a natural bond that should endure, making their failure all the more painful.
  • "have failed" (Hebrew: ḥādəlû - חָדֵ֑לוּ): This verb means "to cease," "to leave off," or "to vanish." It suggests that their presence and support simply disappeared, they ceased to be there for him.
  • "my familiar friends" (Hebrew: meyuddāʿay - מְיֻדָּעָֽי): This refers to those he knew intimately, trusted companions with whom he had a close relationship.
  • "have forgotten me" (Hebrew: šākhəḥûnî - שְׁכֵחֽוּנִי): This implies not just a lack of memory, but a deliberate or callous disregard, as if he no longer existed in their minds or hearts.

Together, these phrases depict a comprehensive and devastating withdrawal of human connection, leaving Job utterly isolated.

Practical Application

Job's experience in this verse resonates deeply with universal human experiences of betrayal and loneliness:

  • Empathy for the Suffering: It serves as a powerful reminder to extend compassion and tangible support to those in distress, especially when others might turn away. It challenges us to be the kind of friend who remains loyal even when circumstances are difficult, echoing the sentiment of Proverbs 17:17, "A friend loveth at all times."
  • The Limits of Human Support: While human relationships are vital, Job's story highlights their fragility and ultimate limitation. It points to the truth that complete and unwavering support can only be found in God, who promises never to leave or forsake His people (Hebrews 13:5).
  • Dealing with Betrayal: For those who have experienced similar abandonment, Job's raw honesty validates their pain. It encourages turning to God as the ultimate refuge when human relationships fail, as Job himself, despite his laments, ultimately expresses a profound faith in his Redeemer (Job 19:25).
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Cross-References

  • Psalms 38:11

    My lovers and my friends stand aloof from my sore; and my kinsmen stand afar off.
  • Matthew 10:21

    And the brother shall deliver up the brother to death, and the father the child: and the children shall rise up against [their] parents, and cause them to be put to death.
  • 2 Samuel 16:23

    And the counsel of Ahithophel, which he counselled in those days, [was] as if a man had enquired at the oracle of God: so [was] all the counsel of Ahithophel both with David and with Absalom.
  • Jeremiah 20:10

    For I heard the defaming of many, fear on every side. Report, [say they], and we will report it. All my familiars watched for my halting, [saying], Peradventure he will be enticed, and we shall prevail against him, and we shall take our revenge on him.
  • Psalms 55:12

    For [it was] not an enemy [that] reproached me; then I could have borne [it]: neither [was it] he that hated me [that] did magnify [himself] against me; then I would have hid myself from him:
  • Psalms 55:14

    We took sweet counsel together, [and] walked unto the house of God in company.
  • Proverbs 18:24

    ¶ A man [that hath] friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend [that] sticketh closer than a brother.