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Ephesians 6:4

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Bible Versions

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
And {G2532}, ye fathers {G3962}, provoke {G3949} not {G3361} your {G5216} children {G5043} to wrath {G3949}: but {G235} bring {G1625} them {G846} up {G1625} in {G1722} the nurture {G3809} and {G2532} admonition {G3559} of the Lord {G2962}.
Fathers, don’t irritate your children and make them resentful; instead, raise them with the Lord’s kind of discipline and guidance.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4 delivers a direct and profound instruction to fathers, outlining their vital role in the Christian household concerning the upbringing of their children. This verse provides a balanced approach, warning against harmful practices while advocating for a positive, spiritually-centered method of parenting.

Context

This verse is part of a larger section in Paul's letter to the Ephesians (chapters 5 and 6) known as the "household codes," which provide guidance for various relationships within the Christian family and society. Following instructions to wives and husbands, and children to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1), Paul turns his attention specifically to fathers. In the Greco-Roman world, fathers held significant authority (patria potestas), often absolute. Paul's exhortation here tempers this power with Christian love and responsibility, demonstrating how believers are to transform societal norms through Christ-like conduct.

Key Themes

  • Responsible Fatherhood: The verse places primary responsibility for a child's spiritual and emotional development squarely on the shoulders of fathers, highlighting their leadership role in the family.
  • Avoiding Provocation: The negative command, "provoke not your children to wrath," warns against parenting styles that exasperate, frustrate, or embitter children. This includes harshness, unreasonable demands, favoritism, constant criticism, inconsistent discipline, or neglect that could lead to resentment and anger in a child's heart. It calls for patience, understanding, and fairness.
  • Positive Nurturing and Instruction: The positive command, "but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord," emphasizes the active, intentional process of raising children. This involves holistic development—intellectual, moral, and spiritual—guided by divine principles. It's about shaping their character and worldview according to God's truth and love.

Linguistic Insights

  • "Provoke" (Greek: parorgizō) means to exasperate, irritate, or make angry. It implies causing someone to lose their temper through persistent annoyance, unfair treatment, or a lack of understanding. It suggests a pattern of behavior rather than an isolated incident.
  • "Nurture" (Greek: paideia) refers to training, discipline, instruction, and correction. It encompasses the entire process of raising a child, including both teaching and corrective measures, aiming for maturity and character formation. It's not merely punishment but formative guidance directed towards growth.
  • "Admonition" (Greek: nouthesia) means warning, counsel, or instruction, specifically implying verbal teaching and reminding. It's about shaping the mind and conscience through words of truth and encouragement, often with a corrective or cautionary element. It emphasizes the importance of verbal communication in guiding children.
  • "Of the Lord": Crucially, both the "nurture" and "admonition" must be rooted in and guided by the principles, character, and teachings of Jesus Christ. This isn't about human wisdom or cultural trends alone, but about raising children in a way that honors God and reflects His nature, preparing them for a life of faith.

Practical Application

Ephesians 6:4 is a timeless guide for Christian parenting:

  • For Fathers (and Parents): It calls for intentional, loving leadership that balances grace with truth. Discipline should be corrective and instructional, not punitive or exasperating. Parents are encouraged to be consistent, fair, and understanding, creating an environment where children feel safe to learn and grow.
  • Building Healthy Relationships: Avoiding provocation fosters an atmosphere of trust and respect, promoting open communication and strong family bonds. Children who feel loved and understood are less likely to rebel or become resentful.
  • Fostering Spiritual Growth: The ultimate goal is to instill a deep love for and understanding of the Lord in children. This involves teaching them God's Word, modeling godly character, praying with and for them, and guiding them toward a personal relationship with Christ. This aligns with the wisdom found in Proverbs 22:6, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
  • Patience and Long-Suffering: Effective parenting requires immense patience, reflecting God's own patience with us (Romans 2:4). It's a lifelong commitment to guiding children toward maturity in Christ.
Note: Commentary is generated by AI with a directive for Biblical fidelity. Always rely on the Holy Spirit for discernment. The Scripture text and cross-references are from verified, non-AI sources.

  • Colossians 3:21

    Fathers, provoke not your children [to anger], lest they be discouraged.

  • Proverbs 22:6

    ¶ Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

  • Proverbs 29:15

    ¶ The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.

  • Proverbs 19:18

    ¶ Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

  • Deuteronomy 6:7

    And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

  • 2 Timothy 3:15

    And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

  • Proverbs 29:17

    ¶ Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
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