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Commentary on Proverbs 5 verses 15–23
Solomon, having shown the great evil that there is in adultery and fornication, and all such lewd and filthy courses, here prescribes remedies against them.
I. Enjoy with satisfaction the comforts of lawful marriage, which was ordained for the prevention of uncleanness, and therefore ought to be made use of in time, lest it should not prove effectual for the cure of that which it might have prevented. Let none complain that God has dealt unkindly with them in forbidding them those pleasures which they have a natural desire of, for he has graciously provided for the regular gratification of them. "Thou mayest not indeed eat of every tree of the garden, but choose thee out one, which thou pleasest, and of that thou mayest freely eat; nature will be content with that, but lust with nothing." God, in thus confining men to one, has been so far from putting any hardship upon them that he has really consulted their true interest; for, as Mr. Herbert observes, "If God had laid all common, certainly man would have been the encloser." - Church-porch. Solomon here enlarges much upon this, not only prescribing it as an antidote, but urging it as an argument against fornication, that the allowed pleasures of marriage (however wicked wits may ridicule them, who are factors for the unclean spirit) far transcend all the false forbidden pleasures of whoredom.
1.Let young men marry, marry and not burn. Have a cistern, a well of thy own (Pro 5:15), even the wife of thy youth, Pro 5:18. Wholly abstain, or wed. - Herbert. "The world is wide, and there are varieties of accomplishments, among which thou mayest please thyself."
2.Let him that is married take delight in his wife, and let him be very fond of her, not only because she is the wife that he himself has chosen and he ought to be pleased with his own choice, but because she is the wife that God in his providence appointed for him and he ought much more to be pleased with the divine appointment, pleased with her because she is his own. Let thy fountain be blessed (Pro 5:18); think thyself very happy in her, look upon her as a blessed wife, let her have thy blessing, pray daily for her, and then rejoice with her. Those comforts we are likely to have joy of that are sanctified to us by prayer and the blessing of God. It is not only allowed us, but commanded us, to be pleasant with our relations; and it particularly becomes yoke-fellows to rejoice together and in each other. Mutual delight is the bond of mutual fidelity. It is not only taken for granted that the bridegroom rejoices over his bride (Isa 62:5), but given for law. Ecc 9:9, Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy life. Those take not their comforts where God has appointed who are jovial and merry with their companions abroad, but sour and morose with their families at home.
3.Let him be fond of his wife and love her dearly (Pro 5:19): Let her be as the loving hind and the pleasant roe, such as great men sometimes kept tame in their houses and played with. Desire no better diversion from severe study and business than the innocent and pleasant conversation of thy own wife; let her lie in thy bosom, as the poor man's ewe-lamb did in his (Sa2 12:3), and do thou repose thy head in hers, and let that satisfy thee at all times; and seek not for pleasure in any other. "Err thou always in her love. If thou wilt suffer thy love to run into an excess, and wilt be dotingly fond of any body, let it be only of thy own wife, where there is least danger of exceeding." This is drinking waters, to quench the thirst of thy appetite, out of thy own cistern, and running waters, which are clear, and sweet, and wholesome, out of thy own well, Pro 5:15. Co1 7:2, Co1 7:3.
4.Let him take delight in his children and look upon them with pleasure (Pro 5:16, Pro 5:17): "Look upon them as streams from thy own pure fountains" (the Jews are said to come forth out of the waters of Judah, Isa 48:1), "so that they are parts of thyself, as the streams are of the fountain. Keep to thy own wife, and thou shalt have," (1.) "A numerous offspring, like rivers of water, which run in abundance, and they shall be dispersed abroad, matched into other families, whereas those that commit whoredom shall not increase," Hos 4:10. (2.) "A peculiar offspring, which shall be only thy own, whereas the children of whoredom, that are fathered upon thee, are, probably, not so, but, for aught thou knowest, are the offspring of strangers, and yet thou must keep them." (3.) "A creditable offspring, which are an honour to thee, and which thou mayest send abroad, and appear with, in the streets, whereas a spurious brood is thy disgrace, and that which thou art ashamed to own." In this matter, virtue has all the pleasure and honour in it; justly therefore it is called wisdom.
5.Let him then scorn the offer of forbidden pleasures when he is always ravished with the love of a faithful virtuous wife; let him consider what an absurdity it will be for him to be ravished with a strange woman (Pro 5:20), to be in love with a filthy harlot, and embrace the bosom of a stranger, which, if he had any sense of honour or virtue, he would loathe the thoughts of. "Why wilt thou be so sottish, such an enemy to thyself, as to prefer puddle-water, and that poisoned too and stolen, before pure living waters out of thy own well?" Note, If the dictates of reason may be heard, the laws of virtue will be obeyed.
II. "See the eye of God always upon thee and let his fear rule in thy heart," Pro 5:21. Those that live in this sin promise themselves secresy (the eye of the adulterer waits for the twilight, Job 24:15); but to what purpose, when it cannot be hidden from God? For, 1. He sees it. The ways of man, all his motions, all his actions, are before the eyes of the Lord, all the workings of the heart and all the outgoings of the life, that which is done ever so secretly and disguised ever so artfully. God sees it in a true light, and knows it with all its causes, circumstances, and consequences. He does not cast an eye upon men's ways now and then, but they are always actually in his view and under his inspection; and darest thou sin against God in his sight, and do that wickedness under his eye which thou durst not do in the presence of a man like thyself? 2. He will call the sinner to an account for it; for he not only sees, but ponders all his goings, judges concerning them, as one that will shortly judge the sinner for them. Every action is weighed, and shall be brought into judgment (Ecc 12:14), which is a good reason why we should ponder the path of our feet (Pro 4:26), and so judge ourselves that we may not be judged.
III. "Foresee the certain ruin of those that go on still in their trespasses." Those that live in this sin promise themselves impunity, but they deceive themselves; their sin will find them out, Pro 5:22, Pro 5:23. The apostle gives the sense of these verses in a few words. Heb 13:4, Whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. 1. It is a sin which men with great difficulty shake off the power of. When the sinner is old and weak his lusts are strong and active, in calling to remembrance the days of his youth, Eze 23:19. Thus his own iniquities having seized the wicked himself by his own consent, and he having voluntarily surrendered himself a captive to them, he is held in the cords of his own sins, and such full possession they have gained of him that he cannot extricate himself, but in the greatness of his folly (and what greater folly could there be than to yield himself a servant to such cruel task-masters?) he shall go astray, and wander endlessly. Uncleanness is a sin from which, when once men have plunged themselves into it, they very hardly and very rarely recover themselves. 2. It is a sin which, if it be not forsaken, men cannot possibly escape the punishment of; it will unavoidably be their ruin. As their own iniquities do arrest them in the reproaches of conscience and present rebukes (Jer 7:19), so their own iniquities shall arrest them and bind them over to the judgments of God. There needs no prison, no chains; they shall be holden in the cords of their own sins, as the fallen angels, being incurably wicked, are thereby reserved in chains of darkness. The sinner, who, having been often reproved, hardens his neck, shall die at length without instruction. Having had general warnings sufficient given him already, he shall have no particular warnings, but he shall die without seeing his danger beforehand, shall die because he would not receive instruction, but in the greatness of his folly would go astray; and so shall his doom be, he shall never find the way home again. Those that are so foolish as to choose the way of sin are justly left of God to themselves to go in it till they come to that destruction which it leads to, which is a good reason why we should guard with watchfulness and resolution against the allurements of the sensual appetite.
Attempt, O hearer, to have your own well and your own spring, so that you too, when you take up a book of the Scriptures, may begin even from your own understanding to bring forth some meaning, and in accordance with those things which you have learned in the church, you too attempt to drink from the fountain of your own abilities. You have the nature of "living water" within you. There are within you perennial veins and streams flowing with rational understanding, if only they have not been filled with earth and rubbish. But get busy to dig out your earth and to clean out the filth, that is, to remove the idleness of your natural bent and to cast out the inactivity of your heart.
“Drink water out of your own cistern,” that is, examine your own resources, do not go to the springs belonging to others, but from your own streams gather for yourself the consolations of life. Do you have metal plates, clothing, beasts of burden, utensils of every kind? Sell them; permit all things to go except your [soul’s] liberty.
Let us return to the sacred Scriptures and “drink water from our own cisterns and running water from our own wells.” Let us drink of the living water, “springing up unto life everlasting.” … Not visible rivers merely watering the earth with its thorns and trees, but enlightening souls.
And I hope, O man, that you imitate the example of this kind, so that you yourself may bear fruit of joy and delight! The sweetness of your grace is within yourself, it sprouts from you, it remains in you, it is within you, that is, the joy of your conscience is to be sought within yourself. Therefore, it says: Drink water from your own vessels, and from the fountains of your own wells (Prov., V, 15).
[Daniel 2:22] "It is He who reveals deep and hidden things, and He knows what is placed in the darkness, and with Him is the light." A man to whom God makes profound revelations and who can say, "O the depth of the riches of the knowledge and wisdom of God!" (Romans 11:33), he it is who by the indwelling Spirit probes even into the deep things of God, and digs the deepest of wells in the depths of his soul. He is a man who has stirred up the whole earth, which is wont to conceal the deep waters, and he observes the command of God, saying: "Drink water from thy vessels and from the spring of thy wells" (Proverbs 5:15). As for the words which follow, "He knows what is placed in the darkness, and with Him is the light," the darkness signifies ignorance, and the light signifies knowledge and learning. Therefore as wrong cannot hide God away, so right encompasses and surrounds Him. Or else we should interpret the words to mean all the dark mysteries and deep things (concerning God), according to what we read in Proverbs: "He understands also the parable and the dark saying." (Proverbs 1:6, LXX) This in turn is equivalent to what we read in the Psalms: "Dark waters in the clouds of the sky" (Psalm 18:11). For one who ascends to the heights and forsakes the things of earth, and like the birds themselves seeks after the most rarified atmosphere and everything ethereal, he becomes like a cloud to which the truth of God penetrates and which habitually showers rain upon the saints. Replete with a plenitude of knowledge, he contains in his breast many dark waters enveloped with deep darkness, a darkness which only Moses can penetrate and speak with God face to face (Exodus 33:11), of Whom the Scripture says: "He hath made darkness His hiding-place" (Psalm 18:11).
“Let the fountain of your water be your own and let no stranger share with you.” For all who do not love God are strangers, are antichrists. And although they enter the basilicas, they cannot be numbered among the sons of God. That fountain of life does not belong to them. Even an evil person can have baptism; even an evil person can have prophecy. We find that king Saul had prophecy; he was persecuting the holy David and was filled with the Spirit of prophecy and began to prophesy. Even an evil person can receive the sacrament of the body and blood of the Lord, for about such it has been said, “He who eats and drinks unworthily eats and drinks judgment to himself.” Even an evil person can have the name of Christ, that is, even an evil person can be called Christian; and about these it has been said, “They profaned the name of their God.” Therefore, even an evil man can have all these mysteries. But he cannot have love and be evil. This, then, is the peculiar gift; it is the unique fountain. For drinking of this the Spirit of God encourages you; for drinking of himself the Spirit of God encourages you.
“Drink the waters from your own wells, fresh water from your own source.” … As the prophet Isaiah declares, “You will be like a well-watered garden, like a flowing spring whose waters will never fail. And places emptied for ages will be built up in you. You will lift up the foundations laid by generation after generation. You will be called the builder of fences, the one who turns the pathways toward peace.” … And so it will happen that not only the whole thrust and thought of your heart but even all the wanderings and the straying of your thoughts will turn into a holy and unending meditation on the law of God.
"Drink water from your own cistern," etc. Use your own wife's desire and cherish her with devoted services.
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SUMMARY
Proverbs 5:15 serves as a crucial admonition within the father's warning against sexual immorality, redirecting the hearer from the destructive allure of illicit relationships to the pure, life-giving satisfaction found exclusively within the marital covenant. Through the evocative imagery of a personal cistern and well, the verse metaphorically commands marital fidelity and contentment, presenting the spouse as the singular, abundant, and refreshing source of intimacy and joy, thereby safeguarding against the bitter consequences of infidelity detailed earlier in the chapter.
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EXPOSITION AND ANALYSIS
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Literary Devices
Proverbs 5:15 is rich in Metaphor, where the "cistern" and "well" serve as powerful symbols for one's spouse, and "waters" represent sexual intimacy, satisfaction, and the life-giving joy found exclusively within the marital bond. This central metaphor vividly conveys the idea of exclusive access and ownership. The verse also employs Parallelism, specifically synonymous parallelism, where the second line ("and running waters out of thine own well") reiterates and intensifies the meaning of the first line ("Drink waters out of thine own cistern"). This repetition serves to emphasize the singular, exclusive, and abundant source of marital satisfaction. Furthermore, the verse utilizes vivid Imagery, drawing on the essential and highly valued resource of water in an arid land to illustrate the precious, vital, and continually refreshing nature of a faithful marital relationship, implicitly contrasting it with the "stolen waters" of illicit affairs that ultimately lead to bitterness and death.
THEOLOGICAL AND THEMATIC CONNECTIONS
This verse articulates a profound theological truth regarding the sanctity and exclusivity of marriage as a divine institution. It teaches that God's design for human intimacy and sexual fulfillment is found solely within the covenant of marriage, where a husband and wife are intended to be a unique, sufficient, and continually refreshing source of joy and satisfaction for each other. This principle actively guards against the destructive forces of lust, infidelity, and relational fragmentation that undermine individuals, families, and communities. The satisfaction derived from one's own spouse is presented as pure, legitimate, and life-giving, standing in stark contrast to the fleeting, bitter, and ultimately ruinous "stolen waters" of illicit relationships. It underscores the wisdom of God's boundaries, which are established not to restrict joy but to protect, enhance, and lead to true human flourishing and contentment.
REFLECTION AND APPLICATION
Proverbs 5:15 issues a timeless and profound call for believers to actively cultivate, cherish, and find deep satisfaction within the intimacy of their own marriage, recognizing it as a sacred and exclusive covenant. It challenges individuals not merely to passively avoid infidelity, but to proactively invest in their marital relationship, fostering profound emotional, spiritual, and physical connection with their spouse. This involves intentional and empathetic communication, mutual respect, shared experiences, and a selfless commitment to meeting each other's legitimate needs and desires within the sacred bounds of the marriage. The verse encourages a mindset of contentment and profound gratitude for the spouse God has given, recognizing that true, lasting, and abundant satisfaction is found in the purity and exclusivity of the marital bond, rather than in seeking fleeting, deceptive pleasures elsewhere. For those not yet married, it serves as a powerful reminder of the value of purity, self-control, and the divine wisdom of reserving intimacy for the covenant of marriage.
Questions for Reflection
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What do "cistern" and "well" symbolize in this verse?
Answer: In Proverbs 5:15, the "cistern" and "well" are potent metaphors for one's own spouse. In the ancient world, these were private, vital, and exclusive sources of life-sustaining water. By employing this imagery, the proverb emphasizes that a person's spouse is the sole, legitimate, and sufficient source of sexual intimacy, emotional satisfaction, and the refreshing joy that God intends to be found exclusively within the covenant of marriage. It underscores the preciousness and exclusivity of the marital bond as the divinely ordained place for such fulfillment, contrasting it sharply with any "stolen waters" from illicit relationships (Proverbs 9:17).
Is this verse only about sexual fidelity?
Answer: While Proverbs 5:15 is primarily understood in the immediate context of sexual fidelity and the avoidance of adultery, its wisdom extends beyond mere physical intimacy. The "waters" from one's "cistern" and "well" can also symbolize the holistic satisfaction—emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and relational—that should be found and cultivated within a marriage. The broader context of Proverbs consistently emphasizes the interconnectedness of all aspects of life and wisdom. Therefore, the verse encourages a comprehensive commitment to one's spouse, fostering a relationship where all legitimate needs and desires for companionship, comfort, and joy are met exclusively within the marital bond, thereby proactively preventing the temptation to seek fulfillment outside of it.
CHRIST-CENTERED FULFILLMENT
Proverbs 5:15, with its profound call to exclusive satisfaction within one's own well, finds its ultimate and most profound fulfillment in the person and redemptive work of Jesus Christ. Just as the physical well provides life-sustaining water in an arid land, Jesus declares Himself to be the ultimate source of "living water" that truly satisfies the deepest spiritual longings of the human soul (John 4:10-14). He is the "well" from whom we are to drink exclusively, finding in Him all spiritual refreshment, joy, and eternal fulfillment, thereby preventing us from seeking satisfaction in the "broken cisterns" of the world that can hold no water (Jeremiah 2:13). Furthermore, the rich imagery of marital fidelity and exclusive devotion in Proverbs powerfully foreshadows the covenantal and exclusive relationship between Christ and His Church. The Church, as the Bride of Christ, is called to absolute faithfulness and singular devotion to Him alone, rejecting the idolatry and spiritual adultery of seeking ultimate satisfaction elsewhere (Ephesians 5:25-27). In Christ, we find the perfect example of unwavering love and commitment, and through His empowering Spirit, we are enabled to live out the principles of fidelity and exclusive devotion in all our relationships, mirroring His own steadfast faithfulness.