Deuteronomy 21:13

And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

And she shall put {H5493} the raiment {H8071} of her captivity {H7628} from off her, and shall remain {H3427} in thine house {H1004}, and bewail {H1058} her father {H1} and her mother {H517} a full {H3117} month {H3391}: and after {H310} that thou shalt go {H935} in unto her, and be her husband {H1166}, and she shall be thy wife {H802}.

and remove her prison clothing. She will stay there in your house, mourning her father and mother for a full month; after which you may go in to have sexual relations with her and be her husband, and she will be your wife.

and put aside the clothing of her captivity. After she has lived in your house a full month and mourned her father and mother, you may have relations with her and be her husband, and she shall be your wife.

and she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thy house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

Commentary

Commentary on Deuteronomy 21:13 (KJV)

Deuteronomy 21:13 is part of a complex set of laws in ancient Israel concerning the treatment of female captives taken in war. This specific verse outlines the required transitional period and rituals for such a woman before she could be taken as a wife by her captor. It reflects a unique legal framework designed to mitigate the harshness of war and provide a measure of dignity and compassion to the vanquished.

Context

This verse immediately follows the initial instruction in Deuteronomy 21:10-12, which permits an Israelite man to take a beautiful female captive as a wife. While the practice itself may seem harsh by modern standards, the Mosaic Law introduced significant regulations that were progressive for its time. These regulations aimed to prevent immediate exploitation and ensure a formal, recognized union rather than mere concubinage or abuse. The laws in Deuteronomy often emphasize justice, mercy, and the sanctity of life within the covenant community, even extending to foreigners and captives.

Key Themes

  • Compassion and Dignity: Despite her status as a captive, the woman is granted a period of mourning and a symbolic purification. This demonstrates a remarkable degree of empathy and concern for her emotional and psychological well-being, distinguishing Israelite law from many other ancient Near Eastern codes which offered no such provisions.
  • Transition and Transformation: The acts of removing her "raiment of her captivity" and the month-long mourning period symbolize a severance from her past life and identity, and a preparation for integration into her new household and community. It acknowledges her loss and trauma, allowing for a necessary psychological and social adjustment.
  • Formalization of Marriage: The process outlined ensures that the union is a legitimate marriage, not simply an act of conquest or enslavement. The man "shall go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife," indicating a legally recognized and binding relationship within the community.
  • God's Concern for the Vulnerable: The detailed nature of this law, seemingly protecting the rights and emotional well-being of a captive woman, reflects a divine concern for the vulnerable and those without agency. This compassion for the vulnerable echoes broader themes throughout Deuteronomy, where God commands Israel to care for the stranger, the fatherless, and the widow, as seen in passages like Deuteronomy 10:18-19.

Linguistic Insights

  • "Raiment of her captivity": This phrase refers to the clothing she wore as a captive, likely symbolizing her status as a prize of war and her former identity. The act of removing it signifies a stripping away of her old life and the traumatic circumstances of her capture, preparing her for a new beginning.
  • "Bewail her father and her mother a full month": The Hebrew word for "bewail" (בָּכָה, bakah) means to weep, lament, or mourn. Granting a full month (a common period for significant mourning in ancient Israel) for this lamentation underscores the severity of her loss—her family, home, and former life—and the sensitivity of the law to her grief.

Practical Application

While the specific context of this law is ancient and tied to wartime practices, the underlying principles offer enduring lessons:

  • Empathy and Respect: The passage highlights the importance of empathy and treating individuals with dignity, even those in vulnerable or captive positions. It calls for acknowledging trauma and allowing space for healing and adjustment during significant life changes.
  • Ethical Conduct in Conflict: For societies, it prompts reflection on ethical treatment of those affected by conflict, emphasizing rehabilitation and integration over mere subjugation.
  • Importance of Transition: Major life transitions, whether positive or negative, require time and space for processing. This law implicitly teaches the value of such transitional periods for emotional and psychological health.
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Cross-References

  • Luke 14:26 (2 votes)

    If any [man] come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
  • Luke 14:27 (2 votes)

    And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.
  • Psalms 45:10 (2 votes)

    ¶ Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father's house;
  • Psalms 45:11 (2 votes)

    So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he [is] thy Lord; and worship thou him.