


What the Bible Says About Dealing with Conflict
Conflict is an inescapable reality of the human experience, a thread woven through the fabric of personal relationships, families, churches, and even nations. From the first quarrel between Cain and Abel to the global strife witnessed today, the Bible consistently presents conflict not as an anomaly, but as a persistent challenge for fallen humanity. Yet, the Scriptures do not leave us without guidance. Far from it, the Word of God provides profound, practical, and Spirit-led principles for navigating conflict, transforming potential destruction into opportunities for growth, reconciliation, and the manifestation of God's character. The Bible, particularly the King James Version, reveals that while conflict itself is often born of sin, our response to it can either glorify God or further entrench us in worldly patterns. Understanding and applying these divine precepts is crucial for every believer seeking to walk in peace and righteousness.
The Root Causes of Conflict
Before we can effectively deal with conflict, the Bible urges us to understand its origins. The Scriptures are unsparing in exposing the true sources of strife, pointing not primarily to external circumstances, but to the internal condition of the human heart. The Apostle James famously asks, "From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?" (James 4:1). Here, the KJV uses the word "lusts" to denote strong, often selfish, desires and cravings that, when unfulfilled, lead to envy, contention, and fighting.
Pride is another significant instigator of conflict. Proverbs 13:10 plainly states, "Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom." A proud heart is unwilling to yield, to admit fault, or to consider another's perspective, thereby fueling disputes. Furthermore, the works of the flesh, as enumerated by Paul in Galatians 5:19-21, are fertile ground for conflict: "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God." Words like "variance," "emulations," "wrath," and "strife" directly describe states of conflict arising from sinful human nature. Recognizing these internal roots is the first step toward biblical conflict resolution.
God's Call to Peacemaking
In stark contrast to the strife generated by sin, God calls His children to be peacemakers. The beatitude in Matthew 5:9 declares, "Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God." This is not merely a call to avoid conflict, but to actively pursue and create peace where discord exists. Paul exhorts us in Romans 12:18, "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men." This verse acknowledges that perfect peace with all is not always possible due to the actions of others, but it places the onus on the believer to do everything within their power to foster peace. The pursuit of peace is a command for all believers, as seen in Hebrews 12:14: "Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord." This pursuit is an active, intentional effort, foundational to our walk with God.
Principles for Biblical Conflict Resolution
The Bible provides clear, actionable principles for resolving conflict in a manner that honours God and seeks true reconciliation:
1. Self-Examination and HumilityBefore confronting another, one must first look inward. Jesus' teaching on the mote and the beam is foundational:
And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
This passage underscores the necessity of humility and self-correction. Often, our own faults contribute to or exacerbate conflicts. A humble heart is teachable and willing to acknowledge its own contribution to the problem.
2. Speaking Truth in LoveWhen addressing conflict, honesty is vital, but it must be tempered with love. Ephesians 4:15 instructs us to "speak the truth in love." This means communicating grievances or concerns directly and clearly, without malice, condemnation, or harshness. The goal is restoration, not retribution. Love, as described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, is patient, kind, does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs, does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. This comprehensive definition of love is the very spirit in which truth should be spoken during conflict.
3. ForgivenessForgiveness is at the heart of Christian conflict resolution. Colossians 3:13 commands:
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
This is not merely an option but a divine imperative, mirroring the forgiveness we have received from Christ. Forgiveness releases the offended party from the burden of bitterness and resentment, and it opens the door for reconciliation, even if the offending party does not seek it.
4. Patience and LongsufferingConflict resolution rarely happens instantly. It requires patience and longsuffering, which are fruits of the Spirit. Ephesians 4:2 encourages us to walk "With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love." This means enduring difficult conversations, giving grace, and allowing time for healing and understanding to develop.
5. Seeking Reconciliation (Matthew 18 Model)For conflicts within the body of Christ, Jesus provides a specific protocol in Matthew 18:15-17:
This process highlights the importance of direct communication, accountability, and the role of the community in facilitating peace.
6. Knowing When to Cease from StrifeWhile peacemaking is commanded, the Bible also recognizes that not all conflicts can or should be pursued indefinitely, especially with those who are contentious. Proverbs 20:3 states, "It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling." Sometimes, wisdom dictates withdrawing from a conflict that is clearly unproductive, fueled by foolishness, or causing more harm than good. This is not avoidance of responsibility but a wise recognition of when further engagement will only escalate contention. Proverbs 26:17 warns against unnecessary involvement: "He that passeth by, and meddleth with strife belonging not to him, is like one that taketh a dog by the ears."
The Indispensable Role of the Holy Spirit
Ultimately, dealing with conflict biblically is not merely a matter of following a set of rules; it is a spiritual endeavor. Our natural inclination is often toward anger, retaliation, or avoidance. Therefore, dependence on the Holy Spirit is vital. It is the Spirit who produces the fruit of "love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance" (Galatians 5:22-23) within us, enabling us to respond to conflict in a Christ-like manner. Prayer is our direct line to this divine empowerment. When facing conflict, Philippians 4:6-7 advises:
Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Seeking God's wisdom, strength, and peace through prayer is paramount to navigating conflict successfully.
Conclusion
Conflict, though painful, provides a profound opportunity for spiritual growth and the demonstration of Christ's character. By understanding its roots in sin, embracing God's call to peacemaking, and applying the timeless principles found in the King James Bible—self-examination, speaking truth in love, active forgiveness, patience, pursuing reconciliation, and knowing when to withdraw—believers can transform moments of discord into avenues for divine grace. It requires humility, courage, and an unwavering reliance on the Holy Spirit to guide our words and actions. As we strive to live peaceably with all men, we not only honour God but also bear witness to the transformative power of the Gospel, reflecting the very peace that passes all understanding.
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