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Psalms 88:18

Lover and friend hast thou put far from me, [and] mine acquaintance into darkness.

Lover {H157}{H8802)} and friend {H7453} hast thou put far {H7368}{H8689)} from me, and mine acquaintance {H3045}{H8794)} into darkness {H4285}.

You have made friends and companions shun me; the people I know are hidden from me.

You have removed my beloved and my friend; darkness is my closest companion.

Lover and friend hast thou put far from me, And mine acquaintance into darkness.

Commentary

Psalms 88:18 (KJV) concludes one of the Bible's most profound and unyielding laments. This verse encapsulates the psalmist Heman's ultimate cry of despair, expressing a complete and utter sense of isolation and abandonment, which he attributes directly to God's actions.

Context of Psalms 88

Psalm 88 stands out in the Psalter as perhaps the darkest psalm, unique in that it offers no resolution or turn towards hope at its conclusion. Authored by Heman the Ezrahite, a Levite musician and wise man (1 Chronicles 6:33), it is a raw outpouring of suffering, sickness, and a pervasive feeling of being cut off from both human companionship and divine favor. The psalmist feels like one already in the grave, surrounded by darkness, and his prayers seem unheard, making it a powerful expression of unmitigated distress.

Key Themes and Messages

  • Profound Isolation: The verse powerfully conveys Heman's complete severance from human connection. He mourns the loss of "lover and friend" and even mere "acquaintance," indicating a comprehensive social and emotional void. This is not just loneliness, but a feeling of being actively pushed away from all human contact.
  • Perceived Divine Abandonment: The phrase "hast thou put far from me" is central. The psalmist directly blames God for his plight, believing that his suffering and isolation are a result of God's deliberate action. This intense feeling of divine abandonment is a hallmark of the psalm, highlighting the depths of his spiritual anguish.
  • Spiritual and Emotional Darkness: The phrase "mine acquaintance into darkness" suggests not just physical separation but a descent into deep spiritual and emotional gloom. This "darkness" symbolizes the absence of light, hope, comfort, and vitality, akin to a living death or the grave, emphasizing the psalmist's utter despair.

Linguistic Insights

The Hebrew phrase for "lover and friend" is 'ohev v'rea' (אֹהֵב וָרֵעַ), signifying deep, intimate relationships, not just casual acquaintances. The verb "put far from me" comes from the Hebrew root r-ḥ-q (רחק), meaning "to be distant" or "to remove." The psalmist uses the Hiphil form, indicating that God is the one actively causing this separation. "Darkness" is maḥshakh (מַחְשָׁךְ), which can denote a dark place, obscurity, or even the underworld, reinforcing the sense of utter hopelessness and separation from life.

Practical Application and Reflection

Psalms 88:18, though bleak, offers significant insights for believers today:

  • Validation of Despair: It validates the human experience of profound despair, isolation, and feeling utterly abandoned, even by God. The Bible does not shy away from expressing the deepest human suffering, assuring us that our darkest emotions are known to God.
  • Honest Lament: It serves as a model for honest lament before God. Even when we feel God is the source of our pain or is absent, we are permitted to cry out to Him with our true feelings, as seen in the raw questions of Psalm 13:1.
  • Empathy for the Suffering: It fosters empathy for those experiencing extreme isolation, depression, or a sense of being cut off from all support. The psalmist's raw honesty reminds us to minister to those in deep spiritual and emotional "darkness."
  • Christ's Identification with Suffering: This psalm, particularly its sense of divine abandonment, is often seen as a precursor to Christ's cry on the cross, "My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?" (Matthew 27:46), showing how deeply God Himself entered into human suffering and isolation, offering hope even in the darkest moments.

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Cross-References

  • Psalms 88:8 (6 votes)

    Thou hast put away mine acquaintance far from me; thou hast made me an abomination unto them: [I am] shut up, and I cannot come forth.
  • Psalms 38:11 (5 votes)

    My lovers and my friends stand aloof from my sore; and my kinsmen stand afar off.
  • Job 19:12 (4 votes)

    His troops come together, and raise up their way against me, and encamp round about my tabernacle.
  • Job 19:15 (4 votes)

    They that dwell in mine house, and my maids, count me for a stranger: I am an alien in their sight.
  • Psalms 31:11 (3 votes)

    I was a reproach among all mine enemies, but especially among my neighbours, and a fear to mine acquaintance: they that did see me without fled from me.
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