Genesis 34:12

Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.

Ask {H7235} me never so much {H3966} dowry {H4119} and gift {H4976}, and I will give {H5414} according as ye shall say {H559} unto me: but give {H5414} me the damsel {H5291} to wife {H802}.

Ask as large a bride-price as you like, I'll pay whatever you tell me. Just let me marry the girl."

Demand a high dowry and an expensive gift, and I will give you whatever you ask. Only give me the girl as my wife!โ€

Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife.

Commentary

Genesis 34:12 records Shechem's desperate and lavish offer to Jacob's sons in exchange for marrying their sister, Dinah, whom he had previously defiled. His words reveal a keen desire to rectify the social transgression and integrate with Jacob's powerful family, offering an unprecedented sum to secure the union.

Historical and Cultural Context

This verse is central to the tragic narrative of Dinah's violation by Shechem, the son of Hamor, the Hivite prince of the region. In the ancient Near East, marriage was a complex social and economic arrangement, often involving a dowry. The "dowry" (Hebrew: mohar) was a customary payment or service rendered by the groom or his family to the bride's family. It served to compensate the family for the loss of their daughter's labor and status, and to ensure her financial security within her new household. The "gift" (Hebrew: mattath) referred to additional presents given to the bride or her family.

Shechem's willingness to pay "never so much" โ€” an expression emphasizing an unlimited, exaggerated amount โ€” highlights his profound eagerness to legitimize his relationship with Dinah and appease her offended family. This was a direct attempt to avoid conflict and secure a peaceful coexistence between his people and Jacob's household, a theme of tribal relations often seen in early biblical accounts. Jacob himself worked seven years for Rachel as his bride-price, illustrating the varied forms dowry could take.

Key Themes and Messages

  • Desperate Appeasement: Shechem's lavish offer is a clear attempt to resolve a grave offense through material compensation. It underscores his desire for personal gain (Dinah as his wife) and social stability (peace with Jacob's family), even if his initial actions were dishonorable.
  • The Value of a Daughter's Honor: The negotiation implicitly acknowledges the immense value placed on a daughter's honor and the family's reputation in ancient society. The dowry was not just a transaction but a reflection of a woman's worth and the family's standing.
  • Underlying Deception: While Shechem's offer appears sincere, the brothers' response, as revealed in subsequent verses, is rooted in deceit and a desire for revenge. This negotiation serves as a deceptive prelude to their violent actions (see Genesis 34:13).
  • Marriage as a Covenant: Despite the tragic circumstances, Shechem's plea still points to the societal understanding of marriage as a binding agreement involving family, social standing, and material exchange, even if the foundation was corrupted.

Linguistic Insights

The Hebrew term for "dowry," mohar (ืžึนื”ึทืจ), specifically refers to the bride-price paid to the father or guardians of the bride. The word for "gift," mattath (ืžึทืชึผึธืช), denotes a broader category of presents. The phrase "never so much" translates from a Hebrew idiom meaning "multiply greatly," emphasizing an extraordinary willingness to pay, far beyond the customary amount.

Practical Application

This passage, though disturbing, offers insights into the complexities of justice, reconciliation, and the dire consequences of sin. It reminds us that material wealth, however great, cannot always atone for deep personal and familial wounds, especially those involving honor and dignity. The tragic outcome of this story also highlights the dangers of seeking revenge outside of just and righteous means, as the brothers' subsequent actions lead to further violence and disrepute for Jacob's family. The narrative underscores the lasting impact of choices on individuals, families, and communities, a theme echoed throughout biblical narratives concerning righteousness and sin.

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Cross-References

  • Exodus 22:16 (3 votes)

    ยถ And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.
  • Exodus 22:17 (3 votes)

    If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.
  • Deuteronomy 22:28 (2 votes)

    If a man find a damsel [that is] a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
  • Deuteronomy 22:29 (2 votes)

    Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
  • Genesis 24:53 (2 votes)

    And the servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiment, and gave [them] to Rebekah: he gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things.
  • 2 Samuel 3:14 (2 votes)

    And David sent messengers to Ishbosheth Saul's son, saying, Deliver [me] my wife Michal, which I espoused to me for an hundred foreskins of the Philistines.
  • 1 Samuel 18:25 (2 votes)

    And Saul said, Thus shall ye say to David, The king desireth not any dowry, but an hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to be avenged of the king's enemies. But Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the Philistines.